friends / life

letting go


My boyfriend likes to joke that he’s my most stable relationship – although it’s sad, he’s essentially correct (save for an almost 10 year high school friendship).
Going into high school, I wasn’t close friends with many of the people I went to elementary school. Then by the end of those 4 years, I wasn’t friends with any of them. I thought that things would change once I hit university – my goal was to form amazing relationships with fantastic people that would continue for the next 60 years. Easy, right?

Let’s skip the (drama-filled) history lesson and cue to today… 

I’ve drifted apart from a seemingly close friend, and although I try my best to reconcile this challenge I’m getting no help from her end. Maybe because she’s just to busy (so am I!), or maybe I suited her needs for the time being and she no longer had any use for me. 

After all that’s said and done, I seem to have trouble accepting that sometimes friendships run their course – and sometimes it’s best to let go. Every so often, I look at my boyfriend in envy because he’s still amazing friends with people who he met in grade 2! And although I want that, I know I won’t have it. 

But I will appreciate and continue to celebrate the incredible friendships that I have right now. Who knows what will happen tomorrow, I’m going to focus on today. 


A lovely poem that I stumbled upon (looking for an equally lovely quote…)

Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.


— Unknown

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